#Review: The Red Table Talk and the “Entanglement”
Remember a couple of months ago when I said I would be posting reviews of film and TV content every Sunday? And now a few months later, I have stopped and you now know me for the filthy liar that I am? Anyway, the mess with Jada Pinkett Smith and August Alsina just took me out of retirement. Your Sunday Reviews are back. And our first review is of the latest episode of the Red Table talk. You can watch the episode here.
So anyway, if you expect this to be a rant shaming Jada for being “unfaithful” or sympathising with Will for being “the victim”, I am sorry to disappoint. This is neither. Whether or not she cheated is her business. They say they were separated. I believe them, they have no reason to lie. Even if they are lying, not my circus, not my monkeys. I am not here to disparage anybody as a wife or life partner of spouse or whatever. Again, not my business.
My issue is with a much larger conversation that a lot of people don’t seem to be ready to have. My issue is with the borderline predatory behaviour that Jada displayed. She says ” …it all started with me wanting to help with his health and his mental state. ” I honestly kinda switched off after that because my issue was if you knew that this boy ( at 22 or 23, you’re just a boy , don’t even try to argue with me) had mental issues, why was the next instinct to start a relationship with him? How is that the next logical step?
Here is a person who is already vulnerable: he is physically sick, mentally he needs help, he has openly admitted to bouts of depression and suicidal thoughts and you a 40 something year old person who definitely knows better still decide to pursue a relationship with him. How?
Not only that but sis also says that she did it just to feel “good”. Like I said, I’m not fighting with Jada the wife. I’m fighting with Jada the person. The fact that she knew that he was mentally and emotionally vulnerable and she still used him to “feel good”, all under the guise of “helping him”is what doesn’t sit right with me.
I’m also fighting with the double standards around this situation. Somebody on Twitter put it best:
There is too much silence around how unequal her and August’s entire interaction was. And I was having a conversation with my friend Chipo about this and she said that the worst part is that people are demonising Jada for bruising Will’s ego and not for what she actually did wrong.
Moreso, her lack of accountability cripples me. She didn’t address that when her relationship with August initially came out, she lied and denied it. She did not acknowledge the fact that she in fact used the boy. Instead, she made this about her Jesus complex. “It was really a joy to help heal somebody- I think it has a lot to do with my co-dependency.”🙄
Maam. Please. We all know somebody like this. Somebody who hides behind big words like “entanglement” and “co-dependency” and “interaction” just to run away from responsibility. And I strongly believe that that is something Jada has mastered…weaponizing the healing process and the search for a better self and using it as ammunition.
I love Jada y’all. I have since I was a kid. But I also believe in accountability and she has shown none. With all of that being said, I admit that this really is none of my business. And I would like to thank you dear reader for being committed enough to read so far into something that has absolutely nothing to do with either of us.