“Death comes, as it must, to all men, and with it the inevitable separation from loved ones”, that’s from one of my favorite books of all time. And yes, people do die. Is it ideal? No. But that’s the way it is. People die and we try to live that-without them. And I’ve noticed how when we lose someone, our family members, our friends and everyone else tries to make us feel better with cups of coffee and hours of unsolicited advice on how to move on from your loss.  But that’s just it, no amount of coffee can bring back the dead, and no amount of counseling can change the fact that when you lose someone, the only thing you have left is a hole in your heart where that person used to be…and a rock with a birthday carved onto it (Ian Somarhalder). No self-help book, no magazine article on “Moving on from loss”can fix what you feel or how you deal with the situation.

Coz that’s the thing…no two losses are the same, which is why no self-help book written for a million people will help you get over your individual loss. Each loss is different, and can’t be treated like the last. See, loss is such a personal thing that only YOU can understand, and in the same vein, only you can cure yourself of the hurt that follows. I guess what I’m saying is it’s literally your loss, and how you deal with it is entirely up to you, because your situation’s exclusive to you.

So go out there, stuff what everyone else has told you, cry all day, curse the heavens, take a road trip…do whatever  it takes to make you feel better, coz you’re the only one who knows how much you’ve lost