Dear Pre-Teen Nkosi

You’re about to enter a relatively complex part of your life and it won’t always be easy. I’m hoping if I leave you this letter it might maybe ease it up a little. Just try to remember everything momma taught you. If you want something, say please, if you’re get something, say thank you, if you’re hurt, forgive, if you hurt, apologize, if that boy next door tries to touch you, say no, unless you want him to.

You and mum aren’t always going to get along, but that’s ok, it’s just a phase, give it a year tops and you’ll be as close as ever.Noteverything will go your way. People will come in and out of your life, but I’m sure you’ll be able to handle it. Remarks will be made, not all of them nice, but they’ll make you a stronger person. Promises will be made. Vows will be broken.Not all your friends are going to be forever, and not all your choices are going to be smart. You’ll have serious lapses in judgement, they won’t cost you much, but they’ll sting a little. You’ll have to say goodbye to a lot of people who mean a lot to you, and there are certain things that you’ll just have to give up.

Sometimes you’ll look in the mirror and not recognize yourself and sometimes you’ll sit by yourself and realize how far you’ve fallen. There’ll be times when you’ll feel alone…you probably will be. You’re the best friend you could ever have. There’ll be nights when you want to cry yourself to sleep, go ahead, let your tears fall right out of those pretty eyes.Your heart may or may not break a couple of times, but that’s also alright…you’ll also break a heart or two yourself. And sometimes you’ll do things you don’t mean to, you’ll hurt people when you really don’t want to, you’ll say things you’ll never be able to take back, you’re not a bad person, you’re just human, beautifully and perfectly human. 

But just like Pink says in one of your favourite songs, “Everything will work out just fine.”- YOU will work out just fine. This is just a letter that I hope prepares you for what’s ahead…who you become is entirely up to you. You’re a smart girl-you’ll figure it out

Love Always

Your 20 year old self