Following up on last week’s post about having babies, I have been hit with a wave of baby fever. I have been thinking about my hypothetical babies and what I would like them to learn. My friend Chrissie posted something abut what she would teach her kids and I thought I would match her list.

5. Hard Work

There is so much joy in hard work and I want my kids to experience that. I want them to understand that they should work for everything that they have, to earn everything that they get their hands on. I don’t want them to ever feel like they got somewhere because they got free passes. I want them to know they achieved everything they do.

4. Honesty

I said in a earlier post that I am so annoyed by lies. I hate being lied to and if my kids are little liars, I don’t know what I’ll do to them. Honesty is a virtue. Teach it early on and it will grow on them. Again, like I said in that post, I probably wouldn’t be all that mad, I would just need them to come clean.

3. Kindness

I really want my babies to be kind. To know when to offer help, or an ear or just a kind word. There’s something so heartwarming about a little person with a giant heart and I want my kids to be like that.

2. Have Opinions

Here’s the thing, I’m not going to force my kids to do anything they don’t want to-except eat their vegetables. But when it comes to bigger things like career choice, religion, sexuality, I want them to decide what they think works for them. I want them to form their own opinions about the world and how it works.

1.Be Happy

More than anything in the world, I want my kids to be happy. I want them to have the full human experience, regardless of how that happiness comes. The tendency with most African parents is to worry about what kind of citizens their children will be: what jobs will they have? Who will they marry? Not me. I’m more interested in how fulfilled my babies will be.